I once called the seacoast foreign. I now call it home…

It’s been one year since Ashley and I moved to New Hampshire. Leaving a secure job, health insurance, retirement, a house, and a community that I had grown up with was terrifying.  It was necessary though and probably saved my marriage. Ok, that sounds a bit dramatic, but it’s true.

Over the past year I’ve learned a lot. Not enough, but I’m getting by ok.

  • I learned how quickly unemployment eats at your soul. Words like doubt, worthless, frustration, and uncertainty quick overtake optimism.
  • I learned networking isn’t all that scary and talking over coffee is easy.
  • I learned having two cars was a waste and I should have sold my car six years ago.
  • I learned my wife is stronger and smarter than I am. I always told her she was, but now I have proof.
  • I learned $5,000 is nothing and that you better have a back up plan.
  • I learned diversity is something that’s important and it’s missing here on the seacoast.
  • I learned how important New York City is to me.
  • I learned three jobs is crazy and unsustainable.
  • I learned a beer with lunch makes the weekdays more bearable.
  • I learned it’s not what you’ve done, but what you’re doing.

 

  • http://stephenbobbett.com Stephen Bobbett

    Yeah, the diversity thing is a bitch. I came from Los Angeles before I lived here, and I’m used to a lot more shades of philosophy as well as melanin.

    • http://dougridley.net Doug Ridley

      It’s interesting that it’s not something I considered when moving up here. I really didn’t take notice until friends started visiting and pointing out that I was the only minority in restaurants/public spaces. Now I notice all the time.

  • http://star-shaped.org Aubrey

    Happy 1 year of living on the Seacoast! I agree, beer with lunch does make the weekdays better. And, I so want to get rid of one of our cars! I don’t believe we need two either. 

    See you at the Thirsty Moose opening tomorrow, whenever that will be! :)

    • http://dougridley.net Doug Ridley

      Can’t wait for the Thirsty Moose!