I find something comfortable about the known, the expected, the anticipated. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy discovery; that first moment of experiencing something unknown. But, when it comes to memory lane, love songs and romantic comedies I can’t get enough of the sappy clichés.
Tonight I was mopping floors at my awesome part time job at Duston’s Deli, (no sarcasm intended (no sarcasm intended about the sarcasm)) and Green Day’s Time of Your Life came on the radio.
Now if you’re from camp, you’re probably tired of this song from sideshows, and I would be too, except for the headline. As I listened I was transported back to camp. I could see all the campers and staff watching their last two weeks transform from shy trepidation to friendships that will last a lifetime. Friendly laugher and cheers bring the photos and videos alive. Everyone becomes quiet as Green Day begins to herald in the last of the cabin photos. That moment full of sap, built upon cliché after cliché is such a powerful moment. Camp is now over.
It’s these small triggers that sometimes happen throughout the day that I quietly wait for. The unexpected that transports you to your fondest memories. The moments of celebration and the ones that remind us of the importance of love.
Life is filled with distractions. Some of them are positive – morning sex. Some of them are negative – phone notifications during dinner. It wasn’t until two weeks ago that I started to identifying and eliminating distractions. What small moments during your day have compiled themselves and become major distractions that could be eliminated?
Here are a few of my own that I’m currently working on.
- Back pain – Over many years, terrible posture and not enough exercise has lead to daily back pain.
- Coffee – The occasional enjoyment of a cup of coffee in the morning has become a necessary evil to start my day.
- Fear of failure – It’s amazing how fast a simple moment of second-guessing can steer an idea into the trash.
- Hulu and YouTube – I can’t tell you how many 2 minute videos have turned into 20 minutes of video surfing.
Distractions are beatable.
My VW Passat
Last month I wrote about my decision to sell my car. Since moving to New Hampshire, I’ve never really needed a second car and the decision to sell it has been a black hole for any moments of creative thinking. Last week I dedicated my Monday to prepping the car for sale… by Wednesday afternoon I had signed away the title.
I haven’t thought once about the car for the past four days. It’s put my mind to ease, and now I can’t believe I didn’t sell it sooner.
I’ve had my glasses for approximately a year. They were $13 from Walmart, and I receive many compliments about them. They weren’t perfect though. Ever since I’ve had them the right ear piece has had a sharp edge. It wasn’t a big deal in the morning, but by mid-afternoon I would be preoccupied with a dull pain.
How productive are you in pain? I’m worthless.
Last week I took a razor to my glasses and shaved off the sharp edge. It took 10 minutes and fixed the problem. I can’t believe that I’ve let myself live with this dull pain for over a year. These two things have put me on a mission to identify these distractions and start eliminating them.
What’s something you could eliminate today?
In grade school isn’t that what every child says? But it isn’t until we grow up that we find that we all were telling the truth.
Dads are the true superheroes.
Thanks dad for everything.
Driving back from NH it was as if nature was giving us her blessing.
A good friend introduced me to author Paulo Coelho. Since then, his books have eased my anxiety and painted a clearer picture of why I am so drastically changing my path.
I’ve just finished “The Pilgrimage” and would like to share a prayer that spoke to me. I hope you will have a chance to read Coelho’s book and it does the same for you.
“I have walked so many miles to discover things I already knew; things that all of us know but that are so hard to accept. Is there anything harder for us, my Lord, than discovering that we can achieve the power? This pain that I feel now in my breast, that makes me sob and that frightens that poor lamb, has been felt since human beings first existed. Few can accept the burden of their own victory: most give up their dreams when they see that they can be realized. They refuse to fight the good fight because they do not know what to do with their own happiness; they are imprisoned by the things of the world. Just as I have been, who wanted to find my sword without knowing what to do with it.”
Finding the courage to take a step forward is difficult. But once you’ve taken that first step, you create momentum. As we all learned in high school physics, “an object in motion stays in motion.”
Going out and moving. How are you moving forward this week?
My mom and chi. Maybe she was on to something...
As a child my mother would excessively tell me, “respect your boundaries.” I hated it. What space was she talking about? I’m a child, get me out of this box!
In the end, this simple philosophy helped define my character:
As I begin to explore eastern philosophy, I believe my mother wasn’t trying to keep me in a box. I think she was drawing my attention to the chi that surrounds us. The ever changing boundary that can stays close to protect us, but also expands to let us stretch and take risks.
Did your mother share any wisdom that only makes sense now that you’re older?
I’m sure I suffer from this on occasion. My self proscribed treatment? Meditation.
Asian Adult Attention Deficit Disorder. Treatment? Meditation